naturalness

Ordinarily, we lead rather unnatural lives. For a society to function, we have many rules and regulations which we must all abide by. Within the family there are also rules, codes of conduct, spoken or unspoken, by which we are expected to live. And so, from all this conditioning, we come to live a life which is, somehow, a little forced. We are living according to the expectations of others. And along the way we have forgotten how to be natural: to be natural like the animals, living a simple life, and to be true to our own individual nature.

The lucky ones, the enlightened ones, have come back to their natural self and live at ease in the world, as a result. For how can we be fully at ease when we are living according to the expectations of others and worrying what they may think of us? And yet, whilst we feel yet incomplete, and depend on the acceptance of others, and the love of others, for a feeling of wholeness, whilst we are in this state we have no choice but to depend on the acceptance of others. and to moderate our behaviour accordingly.

Coming back to our essence, we feel whole in ourself, complete, not in need of something from others. We are no longer lacking. We are no longer incomplete. In fact we never were, but at last that feeling, of not being whole in oneself, has gone. And feeling whole, we can free ourselves psychologically of the need for acceptance by others of us. We free ourselves of the need to feel loved by others. That is not to say others will stop loving us, or that we will stop feeling it. On the contrary, we will feel it all the more when it is not coming from a space of neediness within us.

All this allows us, when we return to our source, this allows us to become natural once again, and live in a simple way without having to think so much about what is acceptable or unacceptable; what others may think of us. So much mental energy is tied up in such things, ordinarily. So that, when this whole mess drops away and we can once more be ourself, as nature intended, then life becomes effortless and we can be spontaneous again like a child, innocent once more; no longer trying to manipulate others, but acting in the moment, spontaneously, naturally. So come back to yourself, to your essence, and rediscover your naturalness.